Do you find yourself saying, “I hate my boss!”, “My co-workers are such idiots!”, “I hate my neighbors!”, or “My team is such a tough group to lead!”

Working with people isn’t easy! I think it is a very common problem all around the world. You are not alone. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you do, there are always difficult people to associate with. Some people are impossible, right? They can be rude, hostile, mean, pushy, bossy, insensitive, and lazy! However, there are millions and millions of personalities on this planet. So, simply, some personalities do not work well with your personality.

So, what do we do? Cry? Get upset? Depressed? Spend countless sleepless nights? Are you thinking to transfer to another school? Or quit your job? Guess what – there will be other difficult people at your new school or work! I know, it is not fair. You are not the difficult one. So, why should you suffer, right? You may be thinking why you are the one that should make efforts. I agree. However, unfortunately, we can’t change who they are. The only thing we can change is our attitude and behaviors toward those.

I know, human relationship can be fraught with problems. However, how well you navigate people does dictate your grade, raise, promotion, and even fate! Do you feel doomed? I understand completely how you feel. But, actually, you can find a way to deal with those difficult people. Although it requires your efforts to acquire some interpersonal skills, it is not unfeasible.

In order to do so, first, you really need to identify the difficult people in your life, and review your recent interaction with them. Then, analyze them. Know your enemies! Now, look into yourself. What make it so difficult for you? How do you wish them to behave? Notice how you are reacting to them. It is important that you clearly identify what the exact issues are. Next, find the best way to communicate with them. Impossible! Hold on…. When you talk to small kids, boss, best friend, or solicitor, don’t you communicate differently? You treat people differently per person, or situation and you respond differently, right? So, change your communication pattern with them. Find a way to communicate with them. I am sure you can. Just believe in your abilities! If you struggle with some issues, work with someone, friends, families, or counselor.